Have you ever purposely-yet-maybe-subconsciously done the opposite of what would make you succeed? Have you ever taken a test while thinking in your head that you were going to fail? Or, have you walked away from a positive situation to stay in a negative one? Chances are, at some point in your life, you have sabotaged your own abilities – we all have. Born out of fear, self-sabotage is a nasty entity that lives inside our inner-being. We know deep down that we can succeed if we take the necessary actions, yet self-sabotage tells us that we can’t, then, we put obstacles in our own path that almost-guarantees failure.
For many people, self-sabotage is easily hushed with a gentle reminder to self-love. Sadly though, for many others, self-loving is a hard concept to grasp and then self-sabotage grows into a dark habit that can stunt one’s growth and paralyze them in unhealthy situations. Studies have determined that persons who may have been bruised by life are more likely to develop self-sabotaging behavior and use it as bandaid. Self-sabotaging interferes with progress and positive change, therefore, it is imperative to deter such behavior. Below are six ways to stop self-sabotaging…
6 Easy Ways to Stop your Self-Sabotaging Behavior:
- Forgive your Circumstances: Find ways to forgive the unfortunate instances in your life that causes self-sabotage to grow. Instead of allowing your circumstances to cripple you, use your journey to grow into the best version of yourself.
- Know your Worth: Self-sabotaging goes hand in hand with low self-worth. Although you know that going back to school, losing 10 pounds or fueling your passions would generate positive change, your low self-worth generates fear and self-sabotaging behavior. You must make yourself believe that you are more valuable than you think you are, because…you are. Regardless of your current situations or how others may view you, you are important, and you do matter. Look at yourself in the mirror throughout the day and tell yourself that you are worthy and you are valuable, and eventually you will begin to believe it.
- Keep Good Company: You become the company you keep, hence it is important to distance yourself from those who thrive on drama and negativity. Find a life coach or a support group that will help you feel good about yourself and your abilities. Read good news instead of bad and talk more about your progress instead of your failures.
- Get on a Spiritual Path: Meditation and prayer will help you understand that anything is possible if you trade your fears for faith, your cannot’s for can’s and your no’s for yes’s.
- Get Uncomfortable: The best way to stop self-sabotaging is to get out of your comfort zone and do the things that you are afraid of doing. Ignore the desire to run away, get uncomfortable and go for the gold.
- Adopt Healthy Habits: Be aware of how you treat yourself and then swap your sabotaging habits for loving ones. Never complain about anything, instead, find reasons to praise. Grow from your failures instead of being hurt by them.
The desire to self-sabotage may always be there because we all have moments of doubt and fear. However, once you have developed a resilient awareness of your worth, you will be able to control that behaviour and trade it with self-love.